What’s Been Going Down…Six Weeks (or so) In Review

I’ve said it many times in the past few months, but this was one wild and crazy summer. Honestly. Not even exaggerating. I’m not sure how long it’s actually been since I’ve done a Week in Review post, but I know it’s been quite a while, so let’s see if I can sum up the past month and a half or so.

We are nearly finished gathering the items needed for our dossier. All we are waiting on now is the completed home study, followed by some quality time at the copy center, then everything will be on its way to the adoption agency. In my perfect world, that will be by the end of this next week. Lord willing.

I also have the application ready for our I600. Again, waiting on the completed home study before I can submit that also.

We received word from the adoption agency that we could travel to Haiti as early as December for our first required visit. This is extremely exciting and news we weren’t expecting. We will probably still wait until after the first of the year for a couple of different reasons, but we’re thrilled to know things are moving faster than expected.

We have Amania’s house on the market. We are praying fervently for a buyer to come along. Hopefully we’ll have good news to that end here soon!

Matt and I celebrated our 12 anniversary in July. We got out of town for a couple days and just enjoyed being together. I am so thankful to be married to my husband. I am always amazed at how God made someone so perfectly suited for me and that He loved me enough 13 years ago to make sure we met. God’s ways truly are so much higher than our ways!

The girls and I, in the midst of everything else, tried to spend as much quality time as possible at the local pool. Summer isn’t summer, in my opinion, without significant amounts of time spent by the water. Thanks to four or five weeks of near- or above-100 degree temperatures, the water finally got warm enough that I would get in. I always enjoy how the girls gather and marvel at the sight of me going off a diving board or down a water slide. Kind of how I imagine one would gather and marvel at the sight of an unexpected space shuttle launch.

The girls spent one of the last weeks of our “official” summer at their favorite day camp. All but Ellie were old enough to go this year and a great time was had by all. I used a couple of the days to do some fun things with Ellie and a couple of the other days to do a lot of the preparation I needed to for the upcoming school year.

After debating it in my head for quite some time, we finally cancelled cable in early July. I rarely watch television and the kids need to watch it less. Plus, we are often so busy and/or trying to spend time outside during the nice months that I just didn’t see the point of paying so much money for television we weren’t watching. So, after going back and forth with the guy at the cable company, I finally got it turned off. I never thought I would miss it, but I’ll be honest….I miss it. I always figured we would get it turned back on in October or November when KU basketball starts back up. Now I’m thinking we might get it turned on sooner. As rarely as I watch television, it is nice to at least have some options when Matt and I do want to watch it. And as for the girls watching it, it really comes down to us managing their time better as parents. In the first few weeks of being without cable, when it was 110 degrees outside everyday, I found we were simply replacing television time with more movies or computer time. So, turning off the cable has been good and somewhat of a learning experience, but I’m definitely ready to turn it back on.

I think that just about gets us up to date. I love summer and the freedom it brings, but being three weeks into school already, I am also thankful for the seasons of order and routine. It is good to see the blessings in both.

Wishing you a wonderful rest of your weekend, my friends!
~ Sara

Adoption Update

It’s June…..nearly the end of it, in fact!  June 1 marked our GO date for beginning the paper chase that is an adoption.  We’ve been busy gathering the details of our life into one green box that resides on top of our refrigerator.  I would guess that we have 1/3 to 1/2 of what we need gathered.  We had our psychological evaluations last week where we were (surprise, surprise!) deemed of sound mind to parent an adopted child.  Tomorrow we go downtown to get fingerprinted and get our police clearance reports.  We’ve sent in Child Abuse Registry clearance forms on ourselves and our oldest child (because she’s over 10).  We’ve preyed on friends to write reference letters on our behalf.  On Sunday we have our first home study visit.  Sometime in July we have our physicals and blood work done.  I’ve ordered ridiculously expensive birth certificate copies from North Carolina (where Matt was born) and gone downtown to pick up mine as well as our marriage certificate.  There’s much more to be done, but I am fully confident we will have everything gathered by the end of July, if not before.

In the meantime, we (mostly Matt) have been busy working on the house that we are planning to sell to help fund this process.  About a month ago we had a painting party at the property that has been named the Amania House.  I commissioned the girls (and their friends) to take pictures, so we have a lot of photos of them and their friends and a few of people working (mostly their back sides).  😉

Front - mid-progress

Casey & Patrick rockin' the south side

Front porch - we ditched the "Passover" swath on the front door and ended up painting it black.

Chandler & Lauren

Beans rockin' the north side

My father-in-law (and I'm realizing I need to teach my girls how to change the date in their camera - it was not June 27, 2008)

Nikki helping roll out the living room

More north side action

This is the girls immortalizing Ellie's helpful nature.

Me. Without make up. Just keepin' it real.

Hannah rollin' in the kitchen.

More Lauren & Chandler

Jazz Hands!

My mother-in-law helping with the yard

Lucy

Emma

Ellie finally helping

Brogan

Grace

I'm not quite sure what they were doing under that shrub for so long, but we have a lot of pictures like this. (And that dumb date stamp is starting to drive me nuts.)

More of Nikki rolling

Mel cutting in

Kerri & Angee working on the second floor

Dick working in the dining room. He claimed no one wanted to help him.

Rex cutting in. Everyone was thankful for the cutters-in!

The breakfast and lunch buffets.

Ben still working hard.

Me supervising.

Matt & Brian chatting it up while Matt paints the trim

Brogan (this shot was too cute not to include)

We are so thankful to the many friends who came out to lend a hand and show their support.  We are also so blessed by the generosity and encouragement of so many as we walk this road.  It is a gift to see how God does all the work and does amazing things when we simply say “yes” and trust Him.

Random Wednesday – Some Catching Up

Thoughts roll through my head, it’s hard to know where to start.  Every day last week I intended to sit down, to write.  Every day filled up, life too busy to linger long at the keyboard.  And this week, it is Wednesday already, and I finally steal a few moments, but what to write first?

The girls are playing outside, enjoying weather that finally feels like summer.  Swimming began this week and (Hooray!) no one has cried, fussed, or complained.  We have worked this week to restore order to the house, cleaning, laundry-ing, and implementing summer schedules.  After a month of what felt like floundering, it’s good to feel order returning.

Since our trip we have had graduation parties, a ballet recital, and painting at Amania’s house.  Pictures linger on the camera.  Hopefully they’ll come off soon and I’ll share them with you.

Today is June 1.  We can officially begin our adoption paper work today.  Woot!

I have had so many emotions related to our adoption in the past few days, ranging from desperately missing her to being anxious to meet her to wondering if we’re really doing the right thing for everyone involved.  I know all these emotions are normal but, much like a “normal” pregnancy and all it’s ensuing emotions, we still must wrestle through it for ourselves.

I had my last run before the Hospital Hill 10k this morning.  Another woot! fits well here.  I keep telling myself it’s only 6.2 miles, but the hills are notoriously tough.  But we’ve trained and I really believe we’re ready for it.  Now we’re just praying for perfect weather Saturday morning.

The troops in the back yard are getting restless.  Direction is needed, so I must go.  Wishing you a wonderful Wednesday!  Hopefully the next post will include photos.  🙂

~ Sara

Adoption Update – Where Will the Money Come From?

I haven’t said much about our adoption for a couple of weeks.  Of course, I haven’t said much about much of anything for a couple of weeks, so why would this be any different?  😉

Our agency application was received and approved (maybe I already said that?) and we sent in our agreement a few weeks ago.  About two weeks ago, I received the very symbolic dossier guide.  I have been very excited about this document.  Something about it just symbolizes to me the realness of the path we’re on.  And then I printed it out – all 35 pages plus 9 pages of home study report guidelines – and once my head stopped spinning, I became very thankful that I’m more than a bit of a paperwork nerd and get a weird thrill out of checking things off lists and gathering obscene amounts of information into one place.  If I don’t get bogged down in the minutiae, this could be fun!  😉

So I have the guide and Wednesday I had a conference call with the agency to go over it.   The conference call was very helpful and kindled new excitement as I was told we can go ahead and start gathering our dossier documents in early June (I had previously assumed late June, due to our December 27 birth date issue) with the goal of having our dossier in Haiti in September and sitting on someone’s desk at IBESR on December 27 (in a perfect world….this is the world of international adoption, so we’re not holding our breath, but God is big and this adventure is all Him).

One question we have gotten is how will you pay for it? I do not know if it is the fact that Matt and I both grew up in families where income was such that it was often “feast or famine” or if the experience of owning our own business for 9 years and watching God’s amazing, miraculous, providing hand in our lives has made us this way, but we really haven’t been too concerned about the money.  That said, there have certainly been moments when I have looked at the months ahead and the natural expenses that go along with raising a family with four children and then look at the numbers on that adoption fee schedule and I break into a cold sweat.  But I know that those whom God has called, He will also equip, and He will not leave us nor forsake us.

So, where will the money come from?  Well, first there’s the good old fashioned savings account.  Matt has worked so hard the past few years putting any extra money we have away.  I know it was not his plan to draw from that so soon, but what’s to say that God was not preparing us for such a time as this?

Our other “fund” is a bit of a risk.  Okay, a big risk, but the timing of how it came to pass has us believing that Lord wants to use this opportunity for His glory.

Last fall a house across the street from us came up for sale.  We have bought and sold houses many times over the years, both ones we’ve lived in and ones we’ve tried to flip.  To be honest, I am over that whole process, especially the ones that we are buying simply to resell.  However, this particular house was cheap enough we were pretty sure we could do everything for cash, so I was okay with it.

Matt made an offer and nothing happened for weeks and weeks and weeks.  Matt went to Haiti in January (remember, the offer was placed in the fall), with instructions on what to do if the Realtor called while he was out of the country.  That wasn’t necessary, as the Realtor never called.  I didn’t care one way or the other, as I didn’t really want to own another house.

Matt returned home and our world began to spin a little faster as we contemplated and prayed about the whole adoption possibility and all the different things it would mean.  We knew we had the money to pay for it, but really didn’t want the hit to our savings.  But we knew we were being called to do this and we knew that the money, while a lot to us, was nothing to God and He would provide.  And if He chose to provide through our reserves, so be it.

About a week later, the Realtor called.  We were closing on the house across the street on Friday.  The closing date ended up moving a time or two, but we did close and we are now the proud owners of another home.

As we talked about it in the days that followed, we both really felt that this could be the Lord’s way of paying for our adoption.  Even before the Realtor called to confirm our purchase, Matt had felt that this could be part of how we pay to bring our daughter home.  Once we learned we were closing, Matt dubbed it “our adoption fund”.

We are well aware that the real estate market stinks right now, but our God is bigger than that.  If what we are feeling is correct and not just our vain imaginings, He will bring all these things to pass and work in even a crummy real estate market.  Worst case scenario, we have improved a house in the neighborhood, but I believe the end result will be better than just that.

So, our next several weeks will be filled with fixing up an old house and making it ready to sell.  If you’re local and can wield a paint brush or roller as well as or better than our seven year old, feel free to drop by and join us!  If not, could we ask you to pray that the Lord would be bringing and preparing just the right buyers for this house?  Not only will they be helping us bring our daughter home, they’ll be watching her and all her sisters grow up across the street.

For His Glory ~

~ Sara

Four

Today, at an orphanage in Haiti, our littlest girl turned four.  When the Lord put her in our hearts, we wondered how much we would ever know about her.  So much of her story was a mystery to us.  So much of her story still is a mystery to us.  But we now know more of why and when she came to the orphanage.  And we know her birth date.  A date so significant to a child, but so taken for granted by us, I’m sure I cannot fully comprehend the importance.

So today she has been bathed in extra prayer and tonight we will celebrate here with Haitian style rice and beans and beyen.  (I truly have no idea how authentic either of these dishes are but, then again, neither does anyone else in our house.  😉 )  And, Lord willing, for her this will be one of only a few birthdays spent without a family to celebrate it with her.

1151.  girls playing basketball after dinner

1152.  days of soul renewing sunshine

1153.  clean front yard

1154.  clean truck

1155.  food, fellowship, and long laughter with friends

1156.  looking forward to gathering

1157.  tripping over yesterday’s flip flops while snow falls outside

1158.  dog joyfully, playfully chasing snowflakes

1159.  grocery shopping done early and under budget

1160.  countless ways the oldest is like her father

1161.  7:30 p.m. and still light out

1162.  new KU shirt

1163.  girls always so excited for the hand-me-downs

1164.  park to ourselves

1165.  feeling WARM!

1166.  sisters outside blowing bubbles

1167.  ballet watch week

1168.  oldest really dancing en pointe!

1169.  prayers of a five year old

1170.  soft curls falling across her face

1171.  outpouring of love gifts

1172. photos of our daughter

1173.  words that bless

1174.  last day of winter

1175.  first day of spring

1176.  Christian birthdays

1177.  allergies that leave me flat on the couch but remind me winter has passed

1178.  a birthday celebration for a little one far away

May your week be filled with the good gifts He gives.  May you delight in His love!

~ Sara

Updates and Such

It’s been kind of a long two weeks on the adoption front.  As the euphoria of our decision to adopt has waned, reality has set in a bit.   I have begun to wonder about different things, and worry has tried to take over.  I have desired to hold our little girl, and sadness has overwhelmed.  I have tried to carry on normally, not sharing this burden with my beloved, and I have drawn in on myself in quietness and isolation.

Last Saturday I finally confided in him what I was feeling, the fears, the emotions, the concerns.  He echoed all of them and understood.  He felt many of the same things.  Just talking with him about these things, I felt lighter, more joyful, more at peace.  I’m not at all sure why I felt I needed to protect him from what I was feeling.

Sunday my mind began to imagine having her in church with us, me holding her as the congregation sang in worship together.  It was all I could do to hold back the flood of tears.

Tuesday brought a fair amount of confusion and emotion that was finally resolved today.  It’s all good, as a friend of ours would say.  😉

We learned last week that it could easily be 18 to 24 months to bring her home after our paperwork is submitted to IBESR in Haiti and that can’t happen until after Matt is 35.  At the end of December.

I found out her birth date yesterday.  Such a gift!  One of the things I wasn’t sure we’d ever be able to know.  She will be four this month (four is one of my favorite ages!) and we will celebrate here in some way.  But, based on the time line we were given last week, she could easily be seven before she comes home.  There’s a big difference between a four year old and a seven year old.  And I am sad that I will miss out on some of my favorite years.  Adoption brings it’s own sort of grieving, I guess.

We plan to send in our agency agreement tomorrow.  I am thankful we are able to do this.  Thankful for this journey God has placed us on.  I know that He will see us through harder times than the past two weeks and all the timing is in His hands.  I trust Him entirely.  He is faithful.

Just a list…..

1130.  “clean” sicknesses

1131.  application in the mail

1132.  groceries before more winter

1133.  snow

1134.  the chiropractor

1135.  snuggly sickies

1136.  lots of naps

1137.  last Upward game

1138.  messages on forgiveness and living Radical

1139.  thunderstorm over still white snow

1140.  husband who helps me talk, sort through, hard things

1141.  sunshine

1142.  agency application approved


Ann’s post is beautiful today.  I hope you’ll click on over there and read it and be blessed as I was.

May your week be filled with thanks ~

~ Sara

Random Wednesday (and a tiny update)

We have completely lost our rhythm around here this week.  I’m not sure how it happened.  But my part of the school day has been dragging on and on.  I can’t get caught up on laundry or dishes or the endless blanket-folding that occurs in the winter.  One child is in and out of consciousness (not literally) with some weird fever-sore throat-upset-stomach-but-otherwise-fine bug.  It’s nearly lunch time on Wednesday and I’m sitting here instead of doing history and science (which typically start at 10) because I can’t find two of my students.  **sigh**

In other news this is in the mail as of this afternoon!

I LOVED Ann’s post this morning.  In this my year of intentional slowing down, it struck a chord.

Wishing each of you a blessed Wednesday, friends!  May you enjoy your Maker today – He loves you so much!

~ Sara

Where We’re At

Just a quick update today on where we’re at with our new adoption adventure.  Pretty much, we’re in the same place we were last week, but with a few more answers.  😉

We know that our little girl is “available”.  They are creating her file and our name will be on it!  We are still waiting to hear back on what our time line, or schedule, will be.  Apparently, one thing Haiti is a stickler on is the age of the adoptive parents, at least that’s what we’ve heard so far.  Their age requirement is between the ages of 35 and 50.  Welllll, Matt won’t be 35 until the very end of this year.  (I won’t be until late next year, but – fortunately – only one of us has to meet that requirement.)  So, we are waiting to hear what we can start when, so that we don’t do things too early and have them expire and then get to do them (and pay for them) twice.

For those that are interested, I will definitely post updates on our progress regularly here, so check back often (or subscribe 😉 ).

Again, I want to thank all you dear friends so much for your wonderful words of encouragement and support last week as we shared what the Lord is doing.  We are blessed to be surrounded by such a wonderful group of people.

May your Wednesday be blessed!

~ Sara

What’s Going On Here

Husband comes home from Haiti.  Both of us have hearts heavy for these children.  We leave the airport and drive south to breakfast.  We sit long in a booth at Mimi’s Cafe and talk over all he has seen and thought and felt in ten short days.

We discuss options, what both our hearts have felt, and agree to pray.  He sleeps hard.  I finally rest, no longer alone.  The next day my heart still burns, anxious for what I feel the Lord saying. I never expect him to agree, so it seems not-as-scary to think these things.  We talk over the sound of his shower, while I do my hair for church.  My heart stops – he’s on the same page!  Now it beats hard at the possibilities and how this will change everything.

There lives in Haiti a little girl, who from the first picture Matt sent back, my heart said that’s my daughter.  I do not know what will come from this, we continue to wait for phone calls, but I know how my heart aches and I know how my husband looked at her in the photos taken by other team members.  And I think of the vision Matt had once, years ago, of five daughters and how we have never had another one naturally….  She is ours in our hearts, and I can only pray that one day she will be ours in reality, if that is the Lord’s will.

There is also a little boy, whom my heart loves, but he has a sister there at the orphanage, and we will not separate siblings, and we do not feel called to adopt three, so we feel God is telling us no about the beautiful boy we wanted to bring home.  And there are two other boys that we asked about, and both are in the process of adoption.  And my heart is wildly happy for both of them and I laugh that perhaps God really doesn’t want us to have a son as He continues to close that door.

We do not know what the future holds.  We are excited to see what God has in store.  This could be a long, slow ride to bring our fifth daughter home.  Or this could be a very fast trip toward a closed door.  Or it could be something in between.  We covet your prayers and promise to keep you posted.

Holding to His Wild Grace ~

~ Sara