Holy cow. You all are awesome. Your love for my post on Friday regarding the Josh Duggar situation and my personal take on it caused it to take off. The feedback I received was filled with grace and encouragement (eh, for the most part), and I thank you all for that. That said, I feel like I need to clarify a few things.
When I wrote that post, I knew that it would get **some** additional traffic, due to the timeliness of the material and the incredibly personal nature of it. But I wrote it for my usual audience, most of whom know me personally and know my heart and my mind on many of these topics. However, I had no idea how much additional traffic it would get. Had I known that, I may have been clearer about a few more things. And because of that, I want to be clear: in absolutely no way am I condoning Josh Duggar’s behavior or (entirely) how his parents handled the situation. As I stated in my original post, I have not read the police report for very specific reasons, but what I have read leads me to believe that the family dealt with the situation in a way that seemed best to them at the time. Does this mean that it truly was the “best way” or that everything was done that needed to be done? Not necessarily. Does that mean that airing the Duggars dirty laundry on Facebook, Twitter, and all the media outlets is the best way to promote healing for a family that is deeply troubled and hurting? Absolutely not.
And that was the point of my post. Not that Josh didn’t do anything wrong. He did! And not that his parents shouldn’t have handled it differently. Maybe they should have. (and their health and healing today. And my point was that we are broken, scarred people – all of us – in desperate need of grace and love from one another and in desperate need of a Savior. Even those of us that claim the cross daily live with the consequences of our choices, big and small. And we all make terrible, sinful choices that affect others. And others around us make choices that affect us. Hope and healing come when we speak honestly about those things rather than masquerading perfection. When we live real, others can find their own hope and healing too.
I know this post won’t get the traffic the other one did. But at least it’s out there. And maybe it clears some of the questions up, maybe it doesn’t. But I again call for us to show grace upon grace upon grace. To each other. It is up to the Duggar girls whether or not they will forgive Josh and / or their parents. It is not our sin to forgive or judge. But we win the most when we show love.
Mercy and forgiveness must be free and unmerited to the wrongdoer. If the wrongdoer has to do something to merit it, then it isn’t mercy, but forgiveness always comes at a cost to the one granting the forgiveness.
For His Glory ~